Almost Done

This post will finish, up to the current situation. At this point, she is sleeping with our daughter. She has also taken her rings off even though we are still married. I guess that makes it easier to do whatever she does. No rings and she's not married I guess. Whatever. I still have mine on and will honor my wedding vows until papers are signed. At least one of us has been faithful to the other throughout. I commend her on staying here until i get another job. Of course that is prob the only decent thing she has done for me in quite some time. I am in the process of trying to get some help with the house payments until I start getting money coming in again because unemployment will barely cover the mortgage payment. If I can get the payment deferral program to work for me, this shit will be over much sooner. 
 So we are back to me being uninvited to birthday parties that my daughter is invited to. These parties must be all about Jennifer because she gets extremely shitty with me when I ask if I am going. Last time she did nothing but cuss and scream at me for asking. For all I know she had her boyfriend meeting her there. Why would she get so pissed just because I asked. After they are there, she tells me I wasn't missing anything and how she told me I could go. Yeah after getting cussed and ridiculed I really wanted to be around her. 
 So there was another birthday today and there was not one mention of me going even though these were supposed to be OUR friends. She has talked so much shit about me to people that I am pretty sure they are HER friends now. The sad thing is, the guy was a good friend of mine and we worked out together for quite some time. Over the course of our friendship, things were said and talked about between he and I and with us splitting up......no telling what those three have done together or are planning to do together.......put 2 and 2 together for those that are reading. I won't mention names at the moment. 
 Another sick thought.......the other day my little girl was looking for keys to her diary in her bed. I was helping her and happened upon a certain little "toy" tucked in Jennifers' pillow. I didn't say anything about it but just left it there. A week or so later, my little one was getting ready for bed. She wanted to lay on her mommy's pillow. I had only assumed the "toy" had been moved but, yeah not so much. She said, "there is something hard under mommy's pillow. Bottom line, I took care of it without her seeing anything. Told her it was something of mommy's. I confronted her with this and she said it had been there for months. Not the point.

This is directed at you Jennifer........Look up Histrionic Personality Disorder and also the symptoms of a Sociopath.......both are you. I would know.
 Some people reading this won't see it because they are under her manipulative ways and others are enabling her by talking shit to her via "sexting." Whatever though.....no longer my problem.
I have cried my last tear over this whole situation. I have been nothing but faithful to her since day 1. I have never given her any reason to think that i was anything but HER HUSBAND. I loved her like no other thru thick and thin. I supported her while she was in school and helped her every way i could when she was ready to give up. Bottom line......I have always been there and nothing but true and faithful to her. I only asked her from the beginning that if there ever was anyone else......leave me. Don't cheat on me or lie to me about it. I said I would do the same. What did I do to deserve to be put thru the shit I was put thru? Yes i could have said "fuck it" long ago but wanted nothing more than to keep us together and happy. After the first couple of years of the bullshit.....I was an angry person. I believe I had every right to be. No matter what I said or asked of her regarding her actions.....I pretty much got a middle finger to the face because she was "doing nothing wrong."
Nothing wrong.......look at us now. She still does not see that I became the person I was and partially still am now because of what she did. She did nothing but blame me from the beginning. The way she portrays it.......not her fault because of what she did....it's my fault because I checked her phone and busted her. Complete denial of any wrong doing but points the blame at me. BS.
 Oh there is one thing I did. It was nothing more than me bullshitting around on my computer one night. My mother was trying to get the "find my ipad" option to work on her ipad one night. We tried to figure it out but never could get it to work. I was home one night waiting for Jennifer to get home. I tried it again to see if it worked but used Jennifers phone. I looked it up and it actually worked....she was driving into the subdivision when i logged it in. I walked upstairs just as she was pulling up and never thought another thing about it. She came downstairs to get something out of the freezer and I forgot to close the program down. So, i made a mistake of looking at that and now because of that, I have been accused of GPS tracking her since we got our iphones. YES I am sure she has told a  number of people about this and for those reading and have been told.......you now know the REAL story. But, believe what you want.
So leaving this post, there will be one more. The next one will reveal some "information" i was told by Jennifer. Come back and read because you will be quite surprised at some of the reading material........
 Anyone know what Tax Evasion is...........this and soooo much more.......

Almost The Final Post

A short time after the last "incident", I was told "this should make you happy.....they are thinking about either moving Todd to the tool shop or getting rid of him." Like that would stop the bullshit between them from happening regardless......
 Of course she was asked what her opinion was.........amazingly, they all of a sudden decided to give him another chance..........yeah just like they did with Mike. Guess that was another park meeting.......

I was let go from the job I took when I left Beach only being told they cancelled the contracts. Unfortunately it was a temp to hire job and the agency tried to call and get some clarification but never got a return call. SCREW THEM!!!
 Got another job only a few weeks after at a place that was 5 minutes from home. It was awesome and paid well. I say "was" because well, yet again they ran out of work and had to let me go again. About 2 weeks before this happened, I was told of a story of how "someone" put a pink bottle of pepper spray on her desk. A "random act of kindness" is the BS I was fed. I asked if she found out who did it and she said she asked around and no one admitted to it.......yeah ok. I didn't say much else but in my mind I know how she is and she wouldn't have stopped until she knew who it was.
 Later that night she got in the shower. A few days before I happened to see her unlock pattern on her phone. Didn't think much of it until tonight. I checked her phone and.......there was the proof. It was only a number but the text message said it all. it was a guy and whoever the chickenshit was made some comment about how they were comfortable with their manhood because they even bought a pink one. She made a comment about "oh so you really do like me." The return was something about "there is something that starts with an L and ends with an E." Then some nonsense about how they were looking over, What appeared to be their significant others shoulder, as she was looking up something on facebook. The chickenshit made some comment about how "jamie" knows that you (jennifer) are the only competition at the company. Now get this.....at the end of the text, they were passing I LOVE YOU to each other. There was some other little giddy bullshit between them but the end said it all. How am I supposed to feel at this point? Can someone tell me that any other sane person would have been OK with seeing that and not freaked out? Keep in mind anyone reading and "thinks" she is your friend......manipulation is most likely what she has done to get your trust.
 This is to you asshole.....are you really comfortable with your manhood? Come face me and tell me who you are........quite sure you already know where I live so please.....bring your low-life, chickenshit, sniveling fucking weasel, no back bone having ass over here and admit who you are!! Even if you don't, I already have a good idea who you are. I will find out. You might want to ask around and find out just how big my family is so figuring out who you are is just a matter of time.
 So, I asked her again about the pepper spray and she could tell I was upset at that point. She went on some tangent about how she was so upset because I didn't believe her. Not sure what kept me from turning into an atomic bomb at that point. I had the phone number and was on a mission to find out who it was. I tried to call making the number private but no answer. 
 This is priceless.......I get a text from her later the next day while I was at work telling me it was one of the girls in document control that gave her the spray and I could stop freaking out about it. OK, that morning, I checked her phone again and the little love text was gone. The night before when we argued, my opinion, she deleted it in case there was some way I would have been able to see the message. Not to mention, after we somewhat finished arguing about this, I went downstairs to get away from it. She came down and asked me when I became so cold? Keep in mind everything above in the green is still on my mind. I wanted to tell her "the same time I found out you are telling another male that you love them." I didn't. She said that people who care about each other would work these things out. People who care about each other..............WTF!!! I mustered up enough strength to act like I was sorry and calmed the situation down.
 So after the BS text about a girl giving her the spray, I said OK. The following day after lunch i started getting texts from her about some messages she left on her phone for me. After the love message, I didn't need to look any more........the obvious had presented itself. She then went into accusing me of having someone at Beach checking up on her when she went to lunch every day. WOW........they get busted and just as every other time, it gets turned around to be MY fault. This went on for a couple days.
 That Thursday, I was let go from my job for lack of work. What a great fucking way to end the week.
 Saturday morning the arguing about the messages started again. I said something about it to her and she came off with some shit that I made a comment that was exactly in those messages. Not even going to get into that because she was looking for every possible way to make it look like I seen them. Either way, she told me that as soon as I get a new job she is leaving and we are getting divorced.
 Honestly, I had already decided that when I seen "I LOVE YOU"
As I am sure you are reading this Jennifer, yes i looked at your phone but not what you think I saw. I seen the real you in the text with the CHICKENSHIT SPINELESS ASSHOLE!
Last post coming soon.......

Resparking old drama

This post is named this because after Mike quit, it appeared she was back to the same shit with Todd. Hell, who knows, it probably never stopped. Even though he had a girlfriend but I am quite sure she didn't know about any of the garbage they were doing. Read some of the earlier posts if you have forgotten.
 We went on vacation in July and everything was good. About 2 weeks after that we did the Color Run in Louisville. The following Friday, as I came into the lab, there she was again at Todds desk. It was back to the old shit that we fought about early on. I said something to her about it. She didn't really say much about it.The next day, Saturday, i was going to help a friend do some painting. She had gotten back from the gym and I noticed her rings were off of her hand. I asked why and it was some story of how she always takes them off at the gym. I asked if she was going to leave them in the cupholder of the van and she got pissed about it. I knew something was up. She proceeded to tell me it was over because I made the comment about her and Todd the day before.
 We went on like that until October or November. Co-existing in the house and not much more. I did, however, find out that she had become really good friends with Randy Richie. He had been there less than a month and had already been called an ASSHOLE by my spouse because of the way he talked to her. YES, those were her exact words. "If he knew who i was, he would have never talked to me that way." Attitude and arrogance like that made me think of the one person I never liked that worked there......Jim Blanton. Yet shortly after, they were texting each other all day for quite some time. Of course when I asked about it, another lie to my face. So Randy is yet another low life prick who got manipulated into believing I was the bad guy. So she got an apartment and she and our daughter moved out for a "trial" separation. In the meantime, I got a used car and room mates and even got my child support lowered to help cover the bills. 
 This is a little more than what most want to know but, less than a month after the move, I was getting invited over to "sleep over." Use your imagination and come to your own conclusions. I had gotten a new job and left Beach. LITERALLY less than a week after I was gone, my stress level went from almost unbearable to almost none. That is how bad i think we were smothering each other. Not to mention i had to be there and witness her actions.
 By March of 2013, she was staying back at home more than the apartment. The last week of April I believe, we were moving her back home. We were getting along awesome and rarely fought about anything. It appeared that things were getting better. APPEARED.....
One afternoon, I got a phone call while at some friends house. I didn't see the call until the following day and it came through as PRIVATE. There was also a voice message left. I listened to the voice mail.
 Before I get into all that.......some time before that call, I was told that a certain ADMIN person did not care for MIKE STEPP and was going to fire him. At that time I had already thought to myself that if my spouse had anything to do with it, he wouldn't get canned. So, the voice mail. I did not recognize the voice, and even let Jennifer hear it as well. Before I let her hear it, I asked the question......"When did you meet Mike Stepp at a park during lunch?" I got the usual dumbfounded look and "what are you talking about?" Whoever it was, and I hope you are reading this as well, tells me that they seen her and Mike at the park one afternoon during lunch and she was in his car." Yeah after she heard it, then she decides she will tell me. First, she denies being in his car and then informs me that she met him up there to let him know what was going on with certain people wanting to fire him. Also that she was in the interview process of the candidates to take his place. 
 Why....was my question. It is none of your business if they want to fire someone. If ADMIN finds out, this could get you in serious trouble. OOPS!!! Yep, here is another one you didn't know about Mary.

More yet still.......

How convenient.....

The next issue that came about with Mike.
 She tells me one afternoon that there is a Customer Meeting she has to go to regarding a certification and then a training class after that. All within about 3 weeks. The part I wasn't real happy about is that she was gonna be going with Mike Stepp to the customer meeting. After the shit he pulled and her asking questions that had nothing to do with her. they are going out of town overnight. Whatever. Yeah that put me sooo much at ease especially because she blamed him for nothing in regards to what happened around Christmas. Which, I guess, she should never have asked him the questions she did and then continue to dig when he didn't answer.
 So after that trip was done, it was now time for the next trip. 4 days but this time alone. She took my laptop to use for the class. YES, I put a key logger program on there because I already knew what was going to be happening. This way I would have proof. Was it wrong of me to do that.......who's to say. In my mind I had every right to be concerned. When she got back home, I waited a few days to check the laptop in case she had an idea I put the program on it. Typical work stuff mainly but, as expected, some interesting emails between her and Mike Stepp. These are the ones i still have screen copies of for proof. There was a message she sent asking for some form and he sent it to her and she said "you are too good to me." His response was something along the lines of "anything for you." Then she was telling him of some sexual comment she made to me and I didn't respond the way she expected. She told him she wouldn't do that anymore. He responded, "yeah she's (mary) like that too. Every time i am in a good mood she has something negative to say. Her name should be Miss Buzz Killington." Would have to read it again but he said something to her and she responded, "stop it your making me want to be back there." Then she said "there is something I miss but I left it back there." (meaning home or just back in town....not real sure). He goes on to talk about how they needed to schedule some more supplier audits together and she replied, "yeah there is a lot I can teach you..........about auditing."
 Appears that is all she has on her mind.........some sexual innuendo seems to be in every conversation. There were some other things said between them but, like I said, would have to go back and read thru them again. So do I trust them together at this point.....uhhh NO!
 Sorry Mary if your reading this. It is what it is and I am not keeping quiet any longer. It's obvious he kept this from you. 
Some time after that, he put in his notice and quit. I do know he was asking my spouse to send him some quality documentation to use at the new job he had. From what I gathered, she was having Robert Leach help her get the stuff sent to him. Not sure if it ever happened. Yeeeaaahhhhh sorry Robert. I am aware that you had no problem going to her about me for anything I said when I was in the lab. Sorry you fell prey to her manipulative ways as well. I have seen some of your interesting conversations with her too. Try not to let your wife in on that. See.......she is ruining peoples lives as much as all the guys and girl she has let ruin mine.
 Still more to read.........

More drama

 A week or so after the last issue, her girlfriend told her she wanted nothing else to do with either one of us. No love loss here... She told my spouse she didn't feel she could trust her any longer. She was afraid her significant other was going to find out. See.....and back when "it" happened, I told her she needed to tell her I knew........don't listen to me.
So, then, now get this, it was MY fault that they were no longer friends. All I did was tell the truth. I was the one that made her aware I knew. I was not the one that crossed that line and cheated. Oh, yeah, I was told at one point that it wasn't cheating because it was a girl....WTF!! As I said before.......I am no angel and never tried to act like I was. If I had known and agreed to what she did........little different scenario. Not gonna get back into that part of the story again.
 So now, her "friend" wasn't speaking to her and she was pissed at me for it. As always.....my fault. A week or so went by and she called me from work on a Saturday. Came at me with both barrels over her "friend." Again how it was all my fault that they weren't speaking any longer. Then demanding that I call around and try to find her a car. Back then, her credit and mine as well was less than appealing. I asked how the hell she expects me to play nice after the cussing and making me feel like an ingrate. She told me I will play nice because I needed her money to be able to keep the house. OK so that was no more than a threat......make your own assumptions on that. I called a few places and got the same response from them all.......everything was based on credit. That ended that for the moment. I ended up borrowing my dads truck for a while to give us some space. Even though we both work at the same place and TECHNICALLY had to be there and clocked in at the same time. Boy does she abuse that privilege. Went to pick her up from work and she dropped me back off at home and left with our daughter. About 3 hours later she came home and was fine. Yikes! 
 About 3 weeks or so later, they were coming in for the 1:30 meeting in the lab. Someone asked her where she went. She told them she had to stop and get a sucker. About 15 minutes later I look up at her and she has gum in her mouth AND the sucker. She had made the comment several times how gross and nasty it was to chew gum and have a sucker at the same time......really? So after talking to her later at home, one of the account managers, that was required to be at these meetings, told her he would go to the meeting if she would put a sucker in her mouth while the meeting was going on.......WHAT!!!!!!!! Does anyone else see the issue here? Can't be that naive or stupid to not see what that was all about. Actually, I am pretty sure she knew exactly what she was doing even though she acted oblivious when I said something. Hey look, one more guy that wanted something and she was more than happy to oblige...........attention attention attention.......
 Let's not look at the fact that it was degrading to her (not that she cared) and disrespectful to me.......my god I was in the fucking room seeing this bullshit. Whatever......

Next Jackass

What a fool for not leaving after the cheating. I went thru the same type shit with my first wife. But it's hard to just say FUCK IT after 10 years of marriage......well at least for me. 
A couple weeks into December of 2011, we are getting ready for work one morning. My daughter got my spouses Kindle and was messing with it. I took it away from her because I didn't want her to accidentally drop it. When i got it, there was a chat going on using Facebook chat. It was with yet another guy that worked at Beach. MIKE STEPP (sorry Mary if you're reading this).
 Last thing in the conversation was something like this......

(Mike) "if and when I feel comfortable enough I will give you an answer. You wanted an answer today so I gave you one."

At this point I was beyond ready to explode on someone. Got to work and waited for him to get there. As soon as he showed up, he and I went to the other side of the plant where it was quiet and somewhat secluded and I asked what the fuck was going on. From what I got out of the conversation, He was complaining about not getting laid. My spouse took it upon herself to ask if he had ever messed around on his girlfriend. First of all......none of her fucking business. She wouldn't let it go because he wouldn't answer her. Not sure what was said.....and prob never will. I told him he needed to find out why she asked him that. He texted me later and said she was just curious. OK that seemed a little too deep of a question to be "just curious." I told him he needed to straight ask her why she was so curious and why she asked the question.
 He sent me a text just before lunch and told me that she was asking him if he wanted to have an affair. He said he told her NO and he was happy where he was. OK so male or female reading this.........how the fuck would you take this?!
 I went to her desk and gave her my ring. Told her "Mike just told me everything about your conversation and asking him about an affair......if that's what you want we are fucking done."
I even showed her the texts. She told me that I was having him to solicit sex to her!! WTF!!!!
 She confronted him with me and he denied it all. The texts were right there on my phone and he still told her he never said any of that. She seen the texts and still called me a liar. That night at home she started packing her clothes and our daughters. while she was packing we were arguing and I finally had enough. I called her girlfriend and told her that I knew what they did. Well of course they both denied it. Bottom line, I told her when i found out that she needed to tell her little girlfriend that I knew about it.....she never would. 
 I told her I was going to expose her for everything if she took my daughter from me. She left and soon after, I had her phone shut off. This was my "don't give a shit how far you fall now" attitude. With everything else, pretty sure I had every right to act that way. She called me about 30 minutes later asking how much damage I had done. I told her "nothing" for now. She came back home and we didn't speak for almost a week. I slept on the couch for a few days. We finally started to talk and decided to take it slow and try to fix it....again. Christmas Eve we were back to somewhat good. 
 Thanks MIKE for being yet someone else that couldn't tell the truth. Mary there is more with these 2 so keep reading............I even have screen shots of the emails they were sending if you want proof.........

Sidestep

 I called this post Sidestep because I will pull away from the main story for just a moment to vent and set some things straight.
 I want to make something clear.......I am well aware of the way I was portrayed when I worked there. I am aware that I was called a controlling asshole. I was made aware that it was told I was controlling, didn't want "her" talking to anyone and wouldn't let her go anywhere by herself and I watched her every move when I was there. Because she has everyone believing everything she says and manipulates people so they will believe her, that is exactly how people seen me. Human nature I guess. 
 Not sure I know anyone that would have put up with as much shit as I have or handled the stress any better. I was constantly told that people always thought I was in a bad mood because the way I looked. If they only knew. Not sure how many times I was told that people would ask my spouse, yes my spouse, what was wrong with me. Including admin on more than one occasion
Why not come ask me? There was absolutely no reason she needed to be asked that question. Depending on who asked, I am sure they got some fucked up response that was nothing more than me being degraded without any way of defending myself. Some of the questions were asked because of some of the posts I put on Facebook. People reading waaaay to deep into what I would post. So again, why not just come face to face and ask me what was wrong?
 No instead, they go by what they were told and went on believing they already knew what was wrong. I know that I looked pissed off a lot. A big part of that was....it was just the way I looked. My son carries the same pissed off look all the time. 
 If you can't come ask me or get to know me, don't judge me. I can't control what is said about me but I could have just as easily remedied the truth by someone taking the time to came talk to me or ask. Granted I wouldn't have said anything like what is being put in here as I couldn't afford to get fired. But at least people would have gotten to know ME instead of the garbage that was being said about me. Hopefully after this is said and done, people will realize there were hidden reasons and unduly amounts of stress that controlled my life.
 With that out of the way.......back to some more TRUE stories. 

Next installment 4 / Cheater

The title of this post says it all but WOW....read on.

  After all the shit that we have been fighting about, its clear that it's not going to stop.

I was leaving work on a Thursday and because we rode to work together, I always went thru doc control to get the keys from her. As I was walking up to the door, I saw her head and Todds hat in the same cubicle at the end of the room. It was more than obvious they were almost face to face. Seriously!!! As I beeped my badge and came thru the door, he had jetted around the corner. When I got to the cubicle, he was standing in the next room facing where I was like he was always there. Yeah, not an idiot! I managed to produce a small smile and he proceeded to ask if the print he had was mine. I told him yes and he went on his way. The blood red face didn’t help the situation. I got keys and went on my way.

   After I got her from work, we had the discussion of what I saw. IMMEDIATELY she said, let’s just call it quits. She said he was walking away when I came thru. What a CROC!!! If that were the case, why did he even stop? Why did he come the other direction? Why was his face red? Come on………….just tell the fucking truth for gods sake!!

 For the next few months it was back to the same shit of her constantly at his desk for some bullshit reason or another. Can't count how many times I would come in the room and find her there and leave as soon as I showed up. So for all of you reading, even people that know Todd, can you honestly see the stress I was under trying to cope and deal with the shit those 2 were doing? I realize he loved his wife before she passed and I had a lot of respect for her. So why is it that a person that loved their spouse that much finds it OK to FUCK MY MARRIAGE UP! Why?! Any REAL man would or should have told her to stop because she was married. Better yet, have the balls to tell me he thought we were friends and still did that shit. Let me go ahead and direct this to him......."thanks for being the main reason that I am now divorced. It takes a real man to fuck up someones marriage, not to mention the shit my daughter will have to go thru now. I seriously hope that getting your dick hard or getting your jollies was worth it because now I have lost my wife and family as well. ASSHOLE!

 Now on to the next part of this post.

In October of 2011, the 18th to be exact, we get home from work and she decides to go for a run. After she got back we had dinner and then sat on the couch to watch tv for a bit. She grabs her phone and starts texting.....

 She starts acting like she is really concerned because her girlfriend (who's name I won't mention.........yet), the same one mentioned earlier in the posts, was driving around Clarksville upset about something. Looking back I think that was a bullshit story. Keep reading. She then says she is going to go find her and hang out for a bit to calm her down. "I won't be gone very long."  Over 3 hours later, she gets home. This is after I finally text her asking what the hell is going on. She ended up back at the friends house to talk.........that's what I was told. I told myself she was full of shit and would get busted eventually. 

 The very next day after work, we went to the funeral home to pay respects to my nephew that had just passed away. Got home and Jenn and Addison went bed. Jennifer plugged up her phone as it was dead. On my way downstairs i had a gut feeling to look at her phone. Nothing at first glance until I seen the last message that came from her friend. I won't go into the details that I saw on the phone. Bottom line, they "hooked up" while she was at her house. So, with everything else that has happened......now she cheated on me. So now all the dogs out there can get boners thinking about that one. I only hope the friend is reading this. Yes I will keep your name out of this........for now. Oh yeah by the way, just so you know, I have pictures of a conversation she and your husband were having thru Facebook chat. If you want to see it, send me a message and I will be glad to show you. Nice friend and husband you have there huh.....

 Don't get me wrong, I am no angel. Just like most other guys.....in the right situation, I would have been ok with it. This was not the right situation. As i am sure that my ex-spouse is denying everything I am writing, I have no reason to lie. I don't work there and have no fear of losing my job. Just trying to make people aware of the type of people they work with and call friends. And people wonder why I looked so upset most of the time.........

Next installment 3

So we are still on the same situation that involved Todd Taylor. 
 Some time after the last incident, I came back to my desk at work. My iPod was turned upside down on my desk. I did not leave it that way when i walked away. When I turned it on, there was a program up on the screen. It was a texting program she and I used before we got iPhones. Had not used that program since. I asked one of the guys I worked with if she had been in the lab when I was gone. They said she came over to my desk looking for something and then left. RED FLAG!!!
 I had a thought........was she using that program to text him? I wondered that because the texting on her phone records to him wasn't happening any more. After a little research, I figured out that if I logged into her chat program on my iPod, I would see any and all texts coming and going that she was doing. Even if she erased them from her iPod the ones on mine stayed there. I left the program running on mine.
 A week or so went by and nothing. On Tuesday, June 21st, her birthday, just before I left work, I checked the text program. Yeah, i was so fucking MAD I almost threw up. This is what I found......
(her) "Wow, haven't seen you much lately. Not been filling the supplies? Or should I say "feeling" the supplies..ha ha. I crack myself up".
 (him) "I feel the supplies whenever I can just been busy lately".
(her) "K....guess I want to do some feeling of my own... :)"

 I told her I saw the messages come thru on his phone and she swore I was pillaging his phone to find the messages. She said it was just bullshit joking around......yeah I am an idiot and believed that one........NOT!!!!!!
That Friday I was leaving work and checked the program again. Another message....
(him) "Sorry I didn't make it back up there. With Troy watching you, we should probably be more careful =)

REALLY!!!!!! Oh but it was just bullshit joking around. I responded to the message so they would both see it....
"Thanks Jennifer and Todd for confirming what I thought was true"
I showed her the text because as usual she denied it. She got pissed yet again and said she was ready to call it quits. Then proceeded to tell me she told him I was pillaging his phone for the messages. WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!
 After we got home she left. I called Todd on the phone and explained the situation. So now they will both know the truth that I didn't need to see anyones phone to get the information. He told me he felt uncomfortable texting her with me working there and we were all friends. Friends? Is that how you talk to your "friends" wife? For that matter, a real man would have never texted her in the first place......she is married ASSHOLE! I'm sure he loved his wife. So he really didn't give a shit about what he was doing to my marriage and my family. After reading back on this situation, that was bullshit from him as well. So see everyone, this is the type of shit I have been dealing with. So can anyone tell me that the conversation they were having was just talk? Why would they need to be more careful? Oh wait.....she said it was because he was talking about coming up there to get drawings. Bullshit! He was constantly going up there for "drawings" and it was never a short trip. Most of the time he was gone for at least 30 minutes. Of course they will both deny that but who better than me would be that observant of where he was spending his time.
 Yet again, did I have the right to check phone records and text messages on her phone? Pretty sure I did just to protect myself and to see what was so much more important than her marriage.

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Next Installment 2

So.......after that non-stop bullshit settled a little, we seemed to get along just fine.....for a bit. Was sitting at home one Friday or Saturday and she decided to go for a run and take the dog with her. First time she had taken the dog so not sure how that was going to work. After she was gone for about 15 minutes, I sent her a text to make sure the dog wasn't acting up. Her phone was setting in front of the TV so the text was a waste. I got the phone and erased the text. When I did that and closed the text program, a map showed up on her phone. It was a map going to someplace in Georgetown. Hmmmmmmm.......yeah already knew that my boss lived out there so it wasn't a question of what that was about. The map directions went from Beach to the address. I did an address search on the internet and I was 100% correct......address was to Todd Taylors house. WTF?!
 So she comes back from her run and I met her outside. I told her about the text and then asked if she had planned on going somewhere in Georgetown. She told me NO and asked why. I told her that the map showed up after I erased the message I sent. She said she had no idea why it was there. I asked if someone had used her phone for any reason and she again said "No." So setting in front of her I was doing an address lookup again. She asked what I was doing and I told her I was looking up the address to see what it was. She got mad and stormed off to the bedroom. After I had the address pulled up and the name of the person that lived there, I took the information back to her and said, "so you have no idea what that is but for some strange reason, it was from work right to Todds house. Guess you still have no idea?"
 I walked off and went outside to set because yet again I was lied to and it involved my jerk ass boss. So she came outside a bit later to tell me why it was there. No she didn't follow me right out there.....it was a good 10 minutes or so. Long enough to come up with this......"someone up in document control was asking about David Cam and I knew he lived close to where Todd lived so i was showing her." What bullshit that was. Why not look it up on the work computer? To go even further.....either she already knew where he lived or she got in the system and looked it up.
 Can anyone else reading this garbage see right thru that bullshit story? Why not just tell the truth if that is honestly what it was. The issues we had already involving the texting and she pulls this stunt.

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Next Installment

 OK so I had to look back thru my personal blog that I keep well locked to remind myself of the events that took place and in some sort of order. I called this blog "self therapy." It was a way for me to vent without uttering it to anyone because no matter what I said or to whom I trusted to just listen....it always got back to her.
 Anyway, some time after the last events, I was offered a job in the Quality Lab. It was a small pay increase and something that at least made me feel like I was contributing to my job. So, after about a week or so of being in the lab I started to notice some things. I say notice because as any person, male or female, that has been in a relationship or marriage for a number of years, when your significant other acts differently, you notice it immediately. It may seem petty, and at first it probably was but.....read on.
 The first thing I noticed was EVERY time my spouse came in to the lab, for any reason big or small, she would constantly go past my boss (yes he is still the boss of the lab) and bump him or kick his chair or stop and chit chat with a shit eating grin on her face the entire time. Or, even though I worked in the lab, she would borrow his safety glasses to go to the floor. I am sitting right there and yet rarely said anything to me. More importantly, if she knew she was going to the floor.....why not bring your own glasses? It wasn't so much the borrowing but more the "over the shoulder hair flip and smiling" as she walked away from him that made me suspicious. I asked one afternoon after work why all the attention towards him and not so much as a "Hi" to me. "Well I can't show you any favoritism or treat you different because we are married." WTF!!?
 Well as you can imagine with me being already on the defense with the last bit of shit that happened, I checked her phone and as I had already expected....yep, they had been texting back and forth. Can anyone else here see that, that was BULLSHIT? He is my boss and she is my wife and they are texting? Yes I checked her phone records. Making that perfectly clear that I checked the phone records. I still stand my ground that I had every right after the last texting fiasco and lie to my face about it.
 I didn't tell her right away that I checked but I did ask her if they were texting and I bet you can guess what she told me....."No, why would you ask that?" LIE LIE LIE. I did a reverse phone number look up and already knew who it was. This happened quite a few times and I finally told her I checked the phone records and knew who it was and that she was texting him. Of course she got mad at me for checking. Lets not look at the fact that it was disrespectful to me coming from BOTH of them and her lying to me about it. Yeah it got turned around and it was my fault we were fighting. I was almost in tears setting at the top of our basement stairs I was so pissed. I asked her to stop texting him because I felt threatened. I pretty much got the finger and was told she wasn't going to be told who she could or could not talk to. Never said don't TALK to him. When she started texting, it was personal and any mention of the texts being about work was absolute bullshit. Same issue as before.......if it was work, use the work phone and as much time as she spent walking thru the lab, could have just as easily talked work then.
 This subject has quite a bit more so I will finish it in the next post........wow.....again reading back on all the shit that has happened over the last 4 years or so.....I still can't believe that I let her make me believe it was ME causing the issue between us......I'm no angel but........yeah read on in the next one.......

And so the ball is rolling

 So after the previous fire was finally put out (but still smoldered for some time after), things seemed to get better. So the spouse (again, most know who this is) started a friendship with a certain other female that is no longer employed there. Not an issue at all.....at least in the beginning. The girl had a daughter about the same age as our daughter and went to the same day care together. They were sorta friends but looking back I think was more forced because of the adult friendship. After finding out that the girl and husband had divorced or split or whatever that drama was, I was told some interesting stuff. The ex had beat her up, cheated on her, pistol whipped her in front of their daughter. Nice guy. Oh yeah, nice guy, if you are reading this, you are in for a major surprise.
 So my spouse and this other female became pretty good friends. Our children did a few birthday parties together because they were invited by other day care kids. My daughter was invited to go to the other girls dance class once or twice. There may have been a few other things but not real sure. What I am sure of is, looking back, I was uninvited to go along because "well she (the little one) has daddy issues and if you (me) go, it might make her feel bad because her dad isn't there." I played nice back then even though it made me mad. Seeing all this in hindsight, I should have stood my ground and went. Not my fault their family was screwed up. Can't hide all the dads from her all the time. It was nothing more than a bullshit story. I will now add one of the conversations we had about one of the outings that I was not invited to:

On the 8^th, my spouse said something to me about our daughter going with her friend to a dance class on the 9^th. That was not a problem. The girls mother was to pick her up after daycare and go from there. Still not a problem.

(spouse) Addi wants me to go to the dance thing tonight.  She said she's scared because she doesn't know the class.

(me) Let me guess. I shouldn't go because of her friends daddy issue?

(me) So why is it an issue if I go?

(spouse) Forget it, I'm not going.  You are driving me nuts with this...  Let me ask you this, if I wasn't going would you want to go?

 *ok this was not an issue of anyone going until Addison asked. Yes then I felt like I needed to go as well*

(spouse) I mean seriously, what is the big deal?????  There's no mention of anything, until you find out that Addison asks me to go, then all the sudden you want to go too.  So you put me between a rock and a hard spot.  I can either piss you off and go, or I can lie to Addi and not go...

(me) All I did was ask a question. You don't have to get mad at me. Sorry.

(spouse) The more I think about it, I am going.  This was supposed to be for Addison, not for you.  You know the only reason I'm going is because she asked me to.  You know where we will be, so I don't see the issue.  And I'm beyond sick of dealing with your stupid insecurities.  I mean really, what pray tell do you think is going to go on?  And obviously you think something because there is no way you would want to go otherwise.

(spouse) Well I am mad.  Why do I have to answer for everything I do?  Why do you always question me like you think I'm doing something wrong?  I tired of it.  No more...  Either trust me or don't but I'm not going to be chained in this CF because you have issues.  I will have friends outside of yours, and you will have to deal with it.  I don't go everywhere you do, and all I'm saying is I would like the same.

(me) I never questioned you at all. I only asked if I was not invited because of her friend. You are the one that got mad at me. I never accused you of anything or thought otherwise. Again I only asked why I wasn't invited.

(me) You are right you don't go everywhere I do but whether you go or not, I at least ask. Sorry I pissed you off for asking. Sorry you assumed I was accusing you of whatever.

(me) As far as you talking about MY insecurities, remember, I am the one that gets uninvited to things because of someone else’s insecurities.

(me) Do not want to fight with you. Love you.

(spouse) Here's the thing, she invited Addison.  It has nothing to do with you. Whatever, it's over.  But it does frustrate me that I can't do anything without you making me feel bad.

Wow.......nice conversation huh? I asked a simple question and it was blown out of proportion and made to be about everything except what I asked. Anyone else see that? It will become clear......just keep reading.....next post.

The Beginning

 I am making a guess as to when the problem started to arise. Seems to me it started just before the end of the year 2008. A new account manager named Dan Micoff started at the company. He was from out of town and his wife and daughter were in the process of getting their lives packed up to move here. I worked with this individual for a while after he started. He was at least 300Lbs and a little taller than me. "Seemed" to be a genuinely nice guy. 
 Was informed one Friday afternoon (dress up friday I like to call it), that he went back to the area my spouse worked and made some off color comment about the way she looked that "dress up" day. I made the mistake of telling her that the comment was apparently made because he had the hots for her. "Whatever" was her comment.
 Skip forward to Christmas of 2008 when I was laid off for, what they said, because the economy was down and they had to cut back on jobs until things changed. I filed for unemployment. So about 2 months in to the lay off, bills were piling up because unemployment sucked. I was checking our bills and expenses to see what I could do to help cut them down. I was checking the cell phone bill one evening and noticed a certain number that was on my spouses phone log in the upwards of 40 or 50 a day every day for about a month or so (yes i still have these saved and put away). Without so much as a word being said, I knew who it was....yes....Dan Micoff. I was so upset, I did not sleep that night. The next morning I confronted her about this. I was correct. The immediate response was, "it is mainly about work." Let me just say...BULLSHIT. First, both had work phones and extensions to their phones. If it was about work, why are they texting? 
 Next it was, "why are you looking at my phone records?" Even though it was nothing more than trying to lower our expenses, I was being accused of "checking" her phone records. That right there was a flag. Why was she getting so pissed about that and making bullshit accusations? She was pissed because I found out about her little secret and had to make it out that it was ME doing wrong......not her. Upon a little further looking, some of the texting was happening at 7pm during her drive home. Work? LIES!
 A few days later (now that she has broken the trust), I looked again and it was still happening. I called her at work to ask her again to stop all the texting with him. She went to the bathroom where she started again about me looking at the phone records. Someone was listening outside the door and overheard the conversation. This person told someone else and it spread through the upstairs like wildfire (I was told this by someone else). I told her I did not like him and he was doing nothing more than looking for a piece of ass.
 A week or so later after that hellfire died down a bit, I called her to ask if we could have lunch together. She told me she was already at lunch with "someone" from work. My stomach and heart dropped. Again, that "knowing" feeling was there. I asked who it was. "Dan" was the response. I hung up. So now, even though I told her I did not like him, busted them for the texting thing twice......she goes out to lunch with him. Talk about being deceived and making sure trust was depleted.......WOW. I told her I was going to make his wife aware of what was happening as I was positive she had no idea. Her reaction after I said that made it perfectly clear she didn't know. "There is no reason to get her involved in this" was the response. I am pretty sure when her ASSHOLE husband took it upon himself to put a major wedge in my marriage, yeah she needed to be informed.
She also came home one afternoon before all this really got started and told me she got some new music on her iPod and i should listen to it because I would prob like it. Turns out it was HIS fucking music. He apparently played guitar and had music recorded. "Oh he plays guitar and sings....ohhhhhhh." Sorry that was me just mimicking what I think was going thru her head. I mean what, did he serenade her or write a song about her? FUCKED UP!!!
 He either quit or was let go shortly after that. When I was recalled in June of 2009, he was no longer there. Probably a good thing as I was still not over that garbage.
  So was I given every reason to not trust her? Was I given every reason to be "aware" of the texting? I am pretty sure I was. Please leave comments if you wish because every person I have ever told this story to, has agreed that I had every reason to check the phone records. Of course in her opinion I was just being jealous and didn't want her talking to anyone. Yeah "everyone", is ONE fat ass dickhead that was after one thing.
Oh yeah, I did one time tell her I was going to request text transcripts and her response was, "if you do that then we are done." That response said a lot........yeah it was mainly about work.....ha ha ha

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Where to start.....

OK, for those that have found themselves here........I will assume you got the information from the "private" Beach page on Facebook or from the general public of Facebook. Keep this in mind, after this is posted, people are going to say it is a lie and none of it is true. I have no reason to lie about this. It's really no secret that there are certain ADMIN and/or ADMIN Spouses that live on Facebook and keep a very close eye on the page created by the employees. Which is really funny because I was "informed" several times that they watch that page and to be careful what I post on there. Even after I posted things on MY PERSONAL Facebook page, There was an argument that ensued because of the relationship to the other person......yeah you all know who I am talking about. For those that don't.......just ask around. This I found to be true because there were posts I made and ADMIN went to my spouse asking questions about ME. Nice that they didn't have the balls to come to me with their "concerns".
 One last thing before I get this going.......all of you ADMIN that are reading, I will try not to mention any direct names and........yeah sorry if you are offended but this is mainly an eye opener for people that have been mislead about me as well as other things. After I tell this story, I will post some other bits of information that I was told to keep hush hush. Those are really juicy bits of information that I am sure most will enjoy while others will DENY DENY DENY. Believe what you want. I don't work there any longer and honestly.....why would I make this up....

OK, just to set the tone for this blog..........my wife and I have separated and most likely getting divorced. The best way I can put this is.......she has a serious problem with filthy texting any guy that will fall prey to it. Married or not, she doesn't care. She blames ME for the degradation of our marriage which in reality, as you will find out from this blog, I acted based off of her actions. What I am putting in here is truth. I am quite sure the other side of the story that has been told is only the part that makes me look like the bad guy. I am no angel and never claimed to be perfect. No-one ever bothered to come ask me what the truth really was because well.........read on.

It is late so i will begin this tomorrow...by the time everyone reads this, it will be almost complete anyway.