I am making a guess as to when the problem started to arise. Seems to me it started just before the end of the year 2008. A new account manager named Dan Micoff started at the company. He was from out of town and his wife and daughter were in the process of getting their lives packed up to move here. I worked with this individual for a while after he started. He was at least 300Lbs and a little taller than me. "Seemed" to be a genuinely nice guy.
Was informed one Friday afternoon (dress up friday I like to call it), that he went back to the area my spouse worked and made some off color comment about the way she looked that "dress up" day. I made the mistake of telling her that the comment was apparently made because he had the hots for her. "Whatever" was her comment.
Skip forward to Christmas of 2008 when I was laid off for, what they said, because the economy was down and they had to cut back on jobs until things changed. I filed for unemployment. So about 2 months in to the lay off, bills were piling up because unemployment sucked. I was checking our bills and expenses to see what I could do to help cut them down. I was checking the cell phone bill one evening and noticed a certain number that was on my spouses phone log in the upwards of 40 or 50 a day every day for about a month or so (yes i still have these saved and put away). Without so much as a word being said, I knew who it was....yes....Dan Micoff. I was so upset, I did not sleep that night. The next morning I confronted her about this. I was correct. The immediate response was, "it is mainly about work." Let me just say...BULLSHIT. First, both had work phones and extensions to their phones. If it was about work, why are they texting?
Next it was, "why are you looking at my phone records?" Even though it was nothing more than trying to lower our expenses, I was being accused of "checking" her phone records. That right there was a flag. Why was she getting so pissed about that and making bullshit accusations? She was pissed because I found out about her little secret and had to make it out that it was ME doing wrong......not her. Upon a little further looking, some of the texting was happening at 7pm during her drive home. Work? LIES!
A few days later (now that she has broken the trust), I looked again and it was still happening. I called her at work to ask her again to stop all the texting with him. She went to the bathroom where she started again about me looking at the phone records. Someone was listening outside the door and overheard the conversation. This person told someone else and it spread through the upstairs like wildfire (I was told this by someone else). I told her I did not like him and he was doing nothing more than looking for a piece of ass.
A week or so later after that hellfire died down a bit, I called her to ask if we could have lunch together. She told me she was already at lunch with "someone" from work. My stomach and heart dropped. Again, that "knowing" feeling was there. I asked who it was. "Dan" was the response. I hung up. So now, even though I told her I did not like him, busted them for the texting thing twice......she goes out to lunch with him. Talk about being deceived and making sure trust was depleted.......WOW. I told her I was going to make his wife aware of what was happening as I was positive she had no idea. Her reaction after I said that made it perfectly clear she didn't know. "There is no reason to get her involved in this" was the response. I am pretty sure when her ASSHOLE husband took it upon himself to put a major wedge in my marriage, yeah she needed to be informed.
She also came home one afternoon before all this really got started and told me she got some new music on her iPod and i should listen to it because I would prob like it. Turns out it was HIS fucking music. He apparently played guitar and had music recorded. "Oh he plays guitar and sings....ohhhhhhh." Sorry that was me just mimicking what I think was going thru her head. I mean what, did he serenade her or write a song about her? FUCKED UP!!!
He either quit or was let go shortly after that. When I was recalled in June of 2009, he was no longer there. Probably a good thing as I was still not over that garbage.
So was I given every reason to not trust her? Was I given every reason to be "aware" of the texting? I am pretty sure I was. Please leave comments if you wish because every person I have ever told this story to, has agreed that I had every reason to check the phone records. Of course in her opinion I was just being jealous and didn't want her talking to anyone. Yeah "everyone", is ONE fat ass dickhead that was after one thing.
Oh yeah, I did one time tell her I was going to request text transcripts and her response was, "if you do that then we are done." That response said a lot........yeah it was mainly about work.....ha ha ha
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