OK so I had to look back thru my personal blog that I keep well locked to remind myself of the events that took place and in some sort of order. I called this blog "self therapy." It was a way for me to vent without uttering it to anyone because no matter what I said or to whom I trusted to just listen....it always got back to her.
Anyway, some time after the last events, I was offered a job in the Quality Lab. It was a small pay increase and something that at least made me feel like I was contributing to my job. So, after about a week or so of being in the lab I started to notice some things. I say notice because as any person, male or female, that has been in a relationship or marriage for a number of years, when your significant other acts differently, you notice it immediately. It may seem petty, and at first it probably was but.....read on.
The first thing I noticed was EVERY time my spouse came in to the lab, for any reason big or small, she would constantly go past my boss (yes he is still the boss of the lab) and bump him or kick his chair or stop and chit chat with a shit eating grin on her face the entire time. Or, even though I worked in the lab, she would borrow his safety glasses to go to the floor. I am sitting right there and yet rarely said anything to me. More importantly, if she knew she was going to the floor.....why not bring your own glasses? It wasn't so much the borrowing but more the "over the shoulder hair flip and smiling" as she walked away from him that made me suspicious. I asked one afternoon after work why all the attention towards him and not so much as a "Hi" to me. "Well I can't show you any favoritism or treat you different because we are married." WTF!!?
Well as you can imagine with me being already on the defense with the last bit of shit that happened, I checked her phone and as I had already expected....yep, they had been texting back and forth. Can anyone else here see that, that was BULLSHIT? He is my boss and she is my wife and they are texting? Yes I checked her phone records. Making that perfectly clear that I checked the phone records. I still stand my ground that I had every right after the last texting fiasco and lie to my face about it.
I didn't tell her right away that I checked but I did ask her if they were texting and I bet you can guess what she told me....."No, why would you ask that?" LIE LIE LIE. I did a reverse phone number look up and already knew who it was. This happened quite a few times and I finally told her I checked the phone records and knew who it was and that she was texting him. Of course she got mad at me for checking. Lets not look at the fact that it was disrespectful to me coming from BOTH of them and her lying to me about it. Yeah it got turned around and it was my fault we were fighting. I was almost in tears setting at the top of our basement stairs I was so pissed. I asked her to stop texting him because I felt threatened. I pretty much got the finger and was told she wasn't going to be told who she could or could not talk to. Never said don't TALK to him. When she started texting, it was personal and any mention of the texts being about work was absolute bullshit. Same issue as before.......if it was work, use the work phone and as much time as she spent walking thru the lab, could have just as easily talked work then.
This subject has quite a bit more so I will finish it in the next post........wow.....again reading back on all the shit that has happened over the last 4 years or so.....I still can't believe that I let her make me believe it was ME causing the issue between us......I'm no angel but........yeah read on in the next one.......
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